Posts Tagged ‘Quran’

I have no idea.  Maybe I should start from the end and work my way back to the beginning… that sounds easier than anything else, I guess.  So here goes.  I am living in Cairo, Egypt now and I love it.  Busy streets, people shuffling from one place to another.  All the beautiful sounds of the city, blaring and beeping from sun-up to sundown.  I used to dream that I would be here someday, walking these streets.  Living this life.  I didn’t know how it would ever come about, but it has and I am grateful.  I lived for a short time overseas and I loved it so much, but I had to leave and I always desired to return to living amongst the muslims.  After returning to the US, I became severely homesick.  I was so depressed that, in the end, it started affecting my marriage and my friendships, even the interaction with my children.  So,  I prayed and prayed about it and finally my husband agreed to let me leave by myself.  I figured maybe it would be easier for me to leave and he be in charge of getting everyone over.  So we chose Egypt and needless to say it was an excellent choice.  There are so many opportunities for study and empowerment here. 

The downfall of it all was that a great big chasm grew between my husband and I.  He didn’t understand how horrible I felt that we were still in the US.  And part of me blamed his adventure in polygyny for our stagnation and damnation to be stuck in darul-kufr.  He spent a lot of money that could have went towards our tickets and settling in overseas.  I’m sorry but that’s how I felt; that the big “P” had thrown a monkey wrench in our plans.  I soon got over it and alhamdulillah was able to see things clearer, but by then the damage was done.   I realized a little too late that whatever was for me; was for me and no-one or nothing could prevent me from my qadr.  Not money or lack thereof, or a co-wife or the lack thereof, or anyone’s bad feeling or evil wishes.  I learned that silently blaming is just as bad as shouting it to the wind.  So here I am and actually here we all are.  May Allah bless us all and keep our feet firmly on his path, ameen.  More later I guess….

Khayr Insha’allah


In ‘al-Fawa’id’ (p. 196-199), Ibn al-Qayyim said

Manners have limits. When these limits are crossed, this is
transgression. When they are fallen short of, this is deficiency and

Anger has a limit: and it is to be bold while being above having negative and deficient traits, and this is the perfect form of anger. If this limit is exceeded, you become a transgressor. If you fall short of it, you will be a coward and will not be able to raise yourself above negative traits.

Covetousness has a limit: it is to take all you need from this world and what it has to offer you. When you fall short of this limit, it becomes disgrace and wastefulness. When you exceed this limit, you end up wanting what you shouldn’t want.

Envy has a limit: and it is to compete in becoming perfect and to excel such that your rival is unable to excel over you. When this limit is exceeded, you transgress and oppress in which you wish that the good things are taken away from the one you envy and are keen to harm him. When you fall short of this limit, you become low, weak in aspiration, and you belittle yourself. 

The Prophet said: “There should be no envy except in regards to two things: a man who was granted wealth by Allah and he was able to spend it for the sake of the truth, and a man who was granted wisdom by Allah and he takes it and teaches it to the people.”
So, this is an envy of competition, where the envious one pushes
himself to be like the one he envies without wishing that he is
deprived of the good things that are with him.

Sexual desire has a limit: and it is to relax the heart and mind from the exhaustion of worship, to maintain moral excellence, and to use the fulfillment of these desires to help you in this. When you exceed this limit, you fall into being overly lustful, and you come to resemble animals. When you fall short of this limit and don’t use this time to obtain excellence and virtue, this becomes weakness, inability, and disgrace.

Relaxation has a limit: and it is to collect yourself and your strength to prepare for worship and perfection of the self, and to save this so that you don’t become weak or tired. When you exceed this limit, this becomes laziness and waste, and you end up missing out on so many things that could benefit you. When you fall short of this limit, you end up hurting and weakening your energy, and it might even be cut off from you like a farmer who is unable to land to plow or crops to pick.

Generosity has a limit between two extremes: and whenever this limit is exceeded, this becomes wastefulness and extravagance. When you fall short of this limit, you become cheap and miserly.

Bravery has a limit: and when you cross this limit, you become reckless. When you fall short of this limit, you become a coward. This limit is that you put yourself forth when the time is right to do so and that you hold yourself back when the time is right to do so, just like Mu’awiyah said to ‘Amr bin al-‘As: “I don’t know whether you’re brave or cowardly! You go forth to the point that I say you’re the bravest person, and then you stay back to the point that I say you’re the most cowardly person!” So, he replied:

I am brave if I am guaranteed the chance * If I don’t have the chance, I am a coward…

Protective jealousy has a limit: and if you exceed this limit, you fall into accusation and suspicion of the innocent. If you fall short of this limit, you fall into heedlessness and lack of manhood.

Humility has a limit: and if it is crossed, this becomes humiliation and disgrace. If you fall short of it, you deviate to arrogance and false pride.

Honor has a limit: and if you exceed it, you fall into arrogance and blameworthy traits. If you fall short of it, you deviate to humiliation and disgrace. The basic principle in all this is to choose the path of moderation between excess and negligence. This is what all of the benefits of this world and the next are built upon. In fact, you can benefit your body in no other way, because when some of your activities are done with lack of moderation and either exceed or fall short of it, your body’s health and energy begins to decline accordingly. Likewise, natural activities such as sleeping, staying awake, eating, drinking, having intercourse, playing sports, spending time alone, spending time with others, etc. – if these are all done moderately between the two blameworthy extremes, this is justice. If you deviate to either extreme, this is a sign of deficiency and will lead to even more deficiency.

This knowledge of proper limits is from the best types of knowledge, especially the limits of what is commanded and prohibited. The most knowledgeable people are those who know the most about these limits, such that they don’t put in them what doesn’t belong and don’t remove from them what does belong. Allah Said: {“The bedouins are the worst in disbelief and hypocrisy, and more likely to be ignorant of the limits that Allah has revealed to His Messenger… “} [at-Tawbah; 97]

So, the people who are most just are those who recognize by way of
knowledge and action the legislated limits in their manners and deeds,
and Allah is the source of success…”

Wa Billahi Tafeeq….



I stumbled upon these ayaat. It is from Surah Balad and it reads:

  11. But he has made no effort to pass on the path that is steep.

12. And what will make you know the path that is steep?

13. (It is) Freeing a neck (slave, etc.)

14. Or giving food in a day of hunger (famine),

15. To an orphan near of kin.

16. Or to a Misk�n (poor) afflicted with misery.

17. Then he became one of those who believed, and recommended one another to perseverance and patience, and (also) recommended one another to pity and compassion.

18. They are those on the Right Hand (the dwellers of Paradise)

So much ajr in these ayats. The “path that is steep” is to do something, sacrifice something, give something you love when it is needed. To suffer discomfort for the greater good. In Tafsir Ibn Kathir it is said that when on of the sahabah heard this ayat he called his fastest, most obedient servant and said: “I free you for the face of Allah.”

Can we traverse this path? Can we stand the discomfort, the hurt feelings, the sleepless nights and insecurities to stick to the path? Are we ready to sweat and suffer and insha’allah win?

Allah help me.


Posted: June 2, 2008 in Uncategorized
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Been a few days since last I posted. Everything is well, just tryin to rap up the last days of school with my kids. TQ has started her own blog (ya rab!) and keeps bugin’ me to post her blog on mine. I am hesitant because cyberspace can be a headache but hey, she’s a big girl she says.

I have started a qur’an class with a sister in Egypt, I really love the class but I think she is tryin to kill me. We do tajweed, hifith and tafsir. I say she is tryin to kill me because she wants me to memeorize half a page from the mushaf every other day. Messae to sister: “Did I fail to mention that I have 6 kids which has made my beautiful mind bereft of memorizing skills? It’s hard enough to remember their names.” Astagfirullah! Seriously I love the class and I pray that Allah makes it easy for me. I will share some of the delicious (is that appropriate to say in regards to the qu’ran?) tafsir we have been covering. I just hate that my PC isn’t arabic enabled so that I can quote the ayaat properly. I’ll work it out somehow.

What else is going on with me? Not much. Studying, working (got a little jobby-job 🙂 and trying not to sell me kids to the circus.

more soon, insha’allah.



Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim….

It has come to my attention from the comments section of this blog that some muslims feel that it is okay to judge by and follow laws that are contrary to the laws of Allah, subhana wa ta’ala. In all my years as a muslim, I have never doubted that man-made law was derived from human beings that for some reason felt that Allah’s laws were not good enough and so decided to create laws of their own.

Prophet Adam and his descendants and all of the subsequent prophets and their followers, all followed the laws of their creator, Allah. This law was and is complete and covers every aspect of our daily lives with truth and justice. So how can anyone who takes worship of Allah (Islam) as their way of life also give credence to man-made law? The law of atheists and pagans? The law of power tripping dictatorships and deviant, irreligious, misguided prostelytizers?

Allah gives us proof that his law is what we should judge by and live by and make uppermost on earth, in many ayats in the qu’ran:

“5:44 It was We who revealed the law (to Moses): therein was guidance and light. By its standard have been judged the Jews, by the prophets who bowed (as in Islam) to allah’s will, by the rabbis and the doctors of law: for to them was entrusted the protection of allah’s book, and they were witnesses thereto: therefore fear not men, but fear me, and sell not my signs for a miserable price. If any do fail to judge by (the light of) what allah hath revealed, they are (no better than) Unbelievers.


5:48 To thee We sent the Scripture in truth, confirming the scripture that came before it, and guarding it in safety: so judge between them by what allah hath revealed, and follow not their vain desires, diverging from the Truth that hath come to thee. To each among you have we prescribed a law and an open way. If allah had so willed, He would have made you a single people, but (His plan is) to test you in what He hath given you: so strive as in a race in all virtues. The goal of you all is to allah. it is He that will show you the truth of the matters in which ye dispute;


5:49 And this (He commands): judge thou between them by what allah hath revealed, and follow not their vain desires, but beware of them lest they beguile thee from any of that (teaching) which allah hath sent down to thee. And if they turn away, be assured that for some of their crime it is allah’s purpose to punish them. And truly most men are rebellious. –


6:114 Say: “Shall I seek for judge other than allah. – when He it is Who hath sent unto you the Book, explained in detail.” They know full well, to whom We have given the Book, that it hath been sent down from thy Lord in truth. Never be then of those who doubt.

Allah tells us that if we are placed in a position of authority on earth, it is not for us to judge by our vain desires as this will be a source of punishment and loss for us:

38:26 O David! We did indeed make thee a vicegerent on earth: so judge thou between men in truth (and justice): Nor follow thou the lusts (of thy heart), for they will mislead thee from the Path of allah. for those who wander astray from the Path of allah, is a Penalty Grievous, for that they forget the Day of Account.

3:3 It is He Who sent down to thee (step by step), in truth, the Book, confirming what went before it; and He sent down the law (of Moses) and the Gospel (of Jesus) before this, as a guide to mankind, and He sent down the criterion (of judgment between right and wrong).

5:66 If only they had stood fast by the law, the Gospel, and all the revelation that was sent to them from their Lord, they would have enjoyed happiness from every side. There is from among them a party on the right course: but many of them follow a course that is evil.

Allah’s law is sufficient for us. We obey and follow the laws of state that do not go against what Allah has already revealed, otherwise that law has no basis. For example, homosexual marriage has been made lawful in American courts. Do we adopt this law as our own or does it go against what Allah has made lawful. The practice of polygyny and in some cases marriage at a young age is also deemed unlawful. Is it correct to judge by other than what Allah has decreed?

Indeed Allah’s earth is spacious. And the earth indeed belongs to him. And wherever you maybe, it is required that you obey Allah and judge by what he has decreed. And to him is our final return.

Any Questions?

Posted: March 15, 2008 in Uncategorized
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