Comments on: Fight!!…..or Flight? http://tabarakallah.wordpress.com/2009/05/02/278/ Hope, Blessings, Rewards, Life Mon, 30 Nov 2009 02:48:13 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: safraz http://tabarakallah.wordpress.com/2009/05/02/278/#comment-353 safraz Thu, 25 Jun 2009 18:28:33 +0000 http://tabarakallah.wordpress.com/?p=278#comment-353 Assalaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu Mashallah - as a guy we always discuss polygamy for a laugh but joking aside, alot of the brothers are satisfied with one wife as this way they can take time out to socialize with their friends Your husband had made a decision and gone ahead with it and without nagging, it seems you rolled your sleeves up and have responded in such a positive manner that I am sure any woman in your situation would read this and feel uplifted. I feel a swell of pride for your sacrifices and accomplishments and pray it goes well. Its noteworthy to say you have also responded to each comment as best as you can You can never make someone understand your situation except yourself and I think that is what counts the most Do dua for me as I spouse search on these horrid matrimonial websites as a divorced guy Assalaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu (I am not that linguistically gifted in arabic so it was a copy and paste job - just to let you know) Assalaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu
Mashallah – as a guy we always discuss polygamy for a laugh but joking aside, alot of the brothers are satisfied with one wife as this way they can take time out to socialize with their friends
Your husband had made a decision and gone ahead with it and without nagging, it seems you rolled your sleeves up and have responded in such a positive manner that I am sure any woman in your situation would read this and feel uplifted.
I feel a swell of pride for your sacrifices and accomplishments and pray it goes well. Its noteworthy to say you have also responded to each comment as best as you can
You can never make someone understand your situation except yourself and I think that is what counts the most
Do dua for me as I spouse search on these horrid matrimonial websites as a divorced guy
Assalaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatu
(I am not that linguistically gifted in arabic so it was a copy and paste job – just to let you know)

]]> By: Cairo Wife http://tabarakallah.wordpress.com/2009/05/02/278/#comment-345 Cairo Wife Fri, 08 May 2009 21:41:35 +0000 http://tabarakallah.wordpress.com/?p=278#comment-345 Very good advice...thank you. Very good advice…thank you.

]]> By: Leila http://tabarakallah.wordpress.com/2009/05/02/278/#comment-343 Leila Mon, 04 May 2009 21:37:23 +0000 http://tabarakallah.wordpress.com/?p=278#comment-343 You mentioned he is away for 2 days so i thought that he spends those 2 days only with her. My definition of companionship is different if the person is away half of the week, not much of a partnership really. You mentioned he is away for 2 days so i thought that he spends those 2 days only with her. My definition of companionship is different if the person is away half of the week, not much of a partnership really.

]]> By: tabarakallah http://tabarakallah.wordpress.com/2009/05/02/278/#comment-342 tabarakallah Mon, 04 May 2009 13:34:46 +0000 http://tabarakallah.wordpress.com/?p=278#comment-342 It's actually not at all like being single. Being single is being alone, being married is having a companion who cares about you and fulfills your needs and provides for you, loves you, protects you. The beauty of polygyny is that it is a choice made by every party. The time is divided evenly between the wives. If a woman feels that being single is better than being married in polygyny she doesn't have to enter into it. Wa Billahi Tawfeeq It’s actually not at all like being single. Being single is being alone, being married is having a companion who cares about you and fulfills your needs and provides for you, loves you, protects you.

The beauty of polygyny is that it is a choice made by every party. The time is divided evenly between the wives. If a woman feels that being single is better than being married in polygyny she doesn’t have to enter into it.

Wa Billahi Tawfeeq

]]> By: Leila http://tabarakallah.wordpress.com/2009/05/02/278/#comment-341 Leila Mon, 04 May 2009 11:21:23 +0000 http://tabarakallah.wordpress.com/?p=278#comment-341 I think it is a good arrangement for you, but if the other wife is only seeing him for 2 days out of a week, then she is more or less like a single woman really. I think it is a good arrangement for you, but if the other wife is only seeing him for 2 days out of a week, then she is more or less like a single woman really.

]]> By: tabarakallah http://tabarakallah.wordpress.com/2009/05/02/278/#comment-338 tabarakallah Sat, 02 May 2009 13:57:07 +0000 http://tabarakallah.wordpress.com/?p=278#comment-338 Of course you do, who doesn't have a life outside of the husband. It felt good to not have the pressure of having everything perfect for him everyday, cooking something simple for the kids and just doing me. Spending time with my friends or whatever without watching the clock because dinner had to be done by the time he gets home. And my husband is pretty demanding of my time so it was refreshing. And because he was gone for two days it gave me the opportunity to miss him and enjoy his coming back. And I would call him when he was gone and he would check in as well. But I miss having the me time, I really do. Of course you do, who doesn’t have a life outside of the husband. It felt good to not have the pressure of having everything perfect for him everyday, cooking something simple for the kids and just doing me. Spending time with my friends or whatever without watching the clock because dinner had to be done by the time he gets home. And my husband is pretty demanding of my time so it was refreshing. And because he was gone for two days it gave me the opportunity to miss him and enjoy his coming back. And I would call him when he was gone and he would check in as well. But I miss having the me time, I really do.

]]> By: Leila http://tabarakallah.wordpress.com/2009/05/02/278/#comment-337 Leila Sat, 02 May 2009 11:14:32 +0000 http://tabarakallah.wordpress.com/?p=278#comment-337 Do you do anything else other than wait for your husband? It takes a strong person to pretend they are newly married and renew the relationship when he has married a NEW wife. I cant see what you get out of it other than that you and your children get to see your husband less. Do you do anything else other than wait for your husband? It takes a strong person to pretend they are newly married and renew the relationship when he has married a NEW wife. I cant see what you get out of it other than that you and your children get to see your husband less.

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